I have a teenage son who is showing signs of a typical teenage boy of grunts and ‘dunno’ replies to everything. It’s challenging as a parent and even more so for someone who tackles the art of listening and conversation in training almost everyday! I sit down and despair just as other parents do … [Read more...] about FEAR AND CONTROL – Dialogue in a technological society
First published exactly 2 years and some current worldwide event reminded me of it. Anybody seen any Olympic style wrongness? No second chance for breaking a start early must be devastating? The Different Levels of Wrongness! Mahiedine Mehkissi-Benabbad thought he was winning a 3,000m steeplechase … [Read more...] about The Different Levels of Wrongness!
The Safety Control Delusion One of the profound realizations of parenting is that you cannot control your own children. One of the stark realizations of marriage is that you cannot control your partner. Yet, here is Safety pushing all this delusional nonsense about ‘controlling’ others. There is a … [Read more...] about The Safety Control Delusion
Safety Gives Me the Right over Other Rights I had a group of safety people in my office for some coaching. I turned the TV monitor on the centre table so everyone could see the screen. I determined that the screen was in a safe position. As I started to chat to the group one of the group got up … [Read more...] about Safety Gives Me the Right over Other Rights
Efficiency, Control and Their Affect on Others For some people, being organised, efficient and in control over others can be like an addiction. It can seem like they just can’t get enough of control efficiency. This is typical in risk and safety and is often enacted in the name of ‘your safety is … [Read more...] about Efficiency, Control and Their Affect on Others
We are in Control and Other Such Delusions! First published August 2014, republished by request It was sad to hear about the death of the genius man, Robin Williams. It was even sadder to hear the reason why. This is a man many of us have followed, watched, laughed with, cried with and grown up … [Read more...] about We are in Control and Other Such Delusions!
Who Decides What is Ugly? The way I go about my work has changed significantly over the past few years. When I think back to 2010, my work could best be described as mechanistic and routine. I worked in ‘health and safety’ and that mostly meant developing, and then assessing systems and processes … [Read more...] about Who Decides What is Ugly?